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Splinter of betrayal resurfaces and rips open new wounds.
If you read my previous post last month, you know my marriage has a deep, unremovable splinter. It is surrounded by scar tissue, with a few years of fresh skin, burying it deeper with time. But it still exists, and the memory of the initial pain stays in the back of my mind and resurfaces…
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How my husband’s secret addiction ruined my sex life.
It is no secret that human touch is so beneficial on many levels. It boosts your physical wellness as well as mental. Ten years ago, I loved when Phil touched me. He could never massage long because he complained his fingers hurt. But specifically, I always favored a slow, light-pressure scalp massage. When we’d lay…
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Fantasy romance leaves sense of loneliness in my heart.
The past month has been packed with numerous events, such as birthdays, end-of-season school celebrations, holidays, and overnight guests. Not that I have much free time, but I have been indulging in some captivating romance stories, each leaving me with a sense of longing in my heart. I am drawn to fantasy romance due to…
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Stuck in a memory bubble, remembering our best times.
A few words make a big impact. Dear JV,After re-reading our latest email exchange, I have been on a trip down memory lane. I keep these memories safe, as they are all I have of us now, almost fourteen years later. Sometimes, I get stuck in my memory bubble whenever we communicate. And sometimes, I…
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Facebook is the landfill of the internet.
‘Unfriended’ by an acquaintance. I have recently found myself in a situation where I was ”unfriended” on Facebook by someone I never considered a friend. She and I have traveled in the same circles for years, as our teenage boys met in grade school and grew quite close. Our paths have crossed through scouting and sporting…
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Baggage and trauma in a new relationship.
Building a new connection through insecurity. When my husband and I began our new relationship in our late twenties, we carried emotional baggage and unresolved traumas. We thought we knew best and often competed with each other during disagreements. But we soon learned we needed to grow personally and support each other. My first marriage…
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A Lackluster Sex Life – Not One to be Desired.
No desire to make out with my husband… My husband’s method of foreplay is highly predictable. It starts with his foot rubbing against my leg. Then he reaches over and starts petting me. My shoulder, my arm, my thigh. It is never in one spot for more than 5 seconds, just lightly rubbing my skin…
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Labor Day is the official ‘Goodbye’ to Summer.
As Labor Day weekend comes to a close, it signals the official goodbye to Summer. Day trips to the beach and cousin sleepovers during the week are no longer possible. Back-to-school jitters start creeping in. From what I’ve gathered from my friends, summer seemed to pass by too quickly. Don’t get me wrong, I love…
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Loneliness is the inspiration behind the blog.
A few weeks ago, my mind was racing in the middle of a restless night. I kept reviewing the endless lists of things they needed for back-to-school and sports. I reflected on my marriage and how it can feel like a rollercoaster, with periods of partnership and other times of complete loneliness. Lately, I’ve been…